Aging is not something most of us spend much time thinking about when we are young. In fact, when we are teenagers, growing older can feel like a long-awaited milestone. I see it in my own granddaughter, who is eagerly counting dawn the days until she turns sixteen and can earn her driver’s license. College students may look forward to turning twenty-one, ready to toss away those fake IDs and celebrate a new level of independence.
But somewhere around forty or fifty, our perspective begins to shift. The passing years seem to move a bit faster. By the time we reach our sixties and seventies, many of us, myself included, begin to realize that we are, as the saying goes, on “the back nine of life.”
I will be honest: many of my friends speak more frequently these days about the realities of aging. Health concerns are more common, energy levels may not be what they once were, and it is natural to reflect on the road already traveled. Personally, I do not find myself overly troubled by this stage of life. I believe that is, in part due to the fact that I have a position which challenges me and keeps me active. While health concerns increase as we age, I believe that keeping active is a positive step in staying healthy. Afterall, maintaining health and outlook is critical, while we cannot stop the clock, we can decide how we respond to it.
I understand that some may disagree with my perspective; aging does bring real challenges, and I would never minimize the experiences of those facing serious health concerns. Yet I firmly believe that aging is, to a significant degree, a state of mine. Directing our thoughts in a positive way, seeking opportunities to stay involved, and maintaining meaningful connections can have lasting benefits.
I once heard a saying that I will paraphrase here: “Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege not afforded to everyone.” As a father who lost a son at age 45, that simple thought carries a powerful truth. Each year we are given is an opportunity, an opportunity to contribute, to learn, to encourage others, and to continue making a difference.
To those who may be wrestling with the idea of growing older, I offer this encouragement: stay engaged, stay connected, and stay positive. While the seasons of life may change, purpose and vitality do no have to fade. There is still much to do, much to give, and much to appreciate.